Tent poles & Intimacy

On Tuesday, HugNation’s topic was digital vs. physical intimacy. I also blogged about it.
On Wednesday, based on recent blog posts, I was invited to a local Philosophy Meetup happening that evening a few miles away.

How poetic!

“I’ll go!” I thought.
I had expressed that I wanted to be amongst the people more, and here an opportunity has found me.
But as the day progressed, I found one reason after another NOT to go.
I even stalled subconsciously – and almost gave myself the excuse, “Now I’ll never make it on time.”
I came up with 2 more reasons to turn around while driving to the coffee shop where they were meeting – I felt like I was literally debating with a voice in my head.
“But what if…?”
“Look, even if you don’t like it, it is STILL a excellent use of your time.”
But I went. And I made it on time.
And I enjoyed myself.
Take THAT, stupid voice in my head who hates leaving the house!

After everyone suggested topics, the group voted to discuss, “digital vs. physical intimacy.”
Digital discussion leads to physical discussion leads to this digital posting…anyone else getting dizzy?
The perspectives from the group were diverse and insightful. And I’m really glad I went.

I’m still trying to figure out the right balance of online & offline attention. But Brody summed it up pretty wonderfully in a comment on my blog:

“I see digital intimacy like guy wires for a tent… and physical connections as tent poles. The tent & poles can probably survive without the guy wires, but the tent and the guy wires are useless without the poles themselves.”

I’m going to continue working on finding the ideal balance between physical and real worlds…and the best way for me pitch a tent.

6 thoughts on “Tent poles & Intimacy”

  1. Ah, what a makeover to your site! I was thinking of all the things I could do with this pink themed aspect of you and a WordPress blog. Its coming along nicely!

    Anyhow, I think that the censor can get real sneaky at times. It loves to talk you out of stuff. Im glad you decided to tell your Censor to f*** off and you went anyway, having a good time.


  2. Hah! Love it.

    Brody’s analogy hit the nail on the proverbial head. I just can’t help but wonder whether evolution, along with advances in technology that radically warp world culture, will change that (if we survive long enough for it to).

    Regardless, it was a great topic, and I’d really like to see you expound upon it further; your point of view is still quite unique, even today. It’s hard for me to leave the house, too, but that’s because I’m an introvert to the core, whereas you strike me as an extrovert who just happens to connect to others differently from most.

    Maybe I’m wrong on that, but either way, I very much enjoyed being privy to your perspective and look forward to the chance when I get to be again.

  3. Isn’t it amazing how the voice in our head thinks in perceptions rather than facts. Going to an event or function rarely turns out negative, yet our minds will perceive it will. I always try to use the crutch of “if it turns out to be a bad or negative event/function, I can always leave”. This crutch gets me there and more often than not, I have a great time and meet wonderful people. I dig the theme, minimalist and pink. =)

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