A couple weeks ago I was â€œfeaturedâ€ with my girlfriend on â€œHotChicksWithDouchebags.com.â€ (EDIT: please do not comment there & defend me!)
It is a high traffic blog where the taunting in comments is as much a part of the site as the pics. I was honored and thrilled. What a great opportunity to practice â€œTroll Aikido!â€ So I embraced the â€œhonor,â€ resisted defending myself, and ended up changing more than a few minds.
By the end of the 200+ comment thread, several people had deleted their earlier insulting posts. A few even checked out my site and became readers. One even joined in this weekâ€™s HugNation!
I got this email, too:
â€œNegative criticism brought me to your site, so I just thought I’d send an email to say I appreciate you for being you. And, yay that negativity turns on itself to bring people together despite their intentions to bring people down. May good will always do that.â€
Now, how differently do you think that would have gone if I said, â€œScrew you! You’re just jealous you losers!â€?
The whole experience reminds me of a line in The Course In Miracles that says, â€œIn my defenselessness, my safety lies.â€